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                                         Bullying and your character


  • Bullying is a big problem in schools today, and educators are looking for ways to address it. One way to end bullying in schools, and anywhere else, is for more young people to build their character around good values. People with good character don't bully and don't allow bullying in their presence.  Bullying stoops to a level of behavior that good character wouldn't practice, or allow. Bullying is harassing, teasing, taunting, bluffing, threatening, and exhibiting any speech or behavior toward another person who is threatened by that speech or behavior, especially if you have a physical, authoritative, or emotional advantage over that person. It is bothering somebody who is not your equal, or picking on them. Bullying can be done in a group, or by an individual, in person, or through technology. In what form it appears, bullying is wrong. It is against the law, and goes against the values of decent people. And everywhere young people gather, bullying is against the rules.  Bullying is a violation of practically every value of the American people. No person who claims good character, or common decency can justify bullying. Bullying disrespects human dignity by degrading the victim and trying to make him feel worthless. Bullying is a disrespect of one’s citizenship because it violates the protections one has under the law. Bullying violates the value of humility by projecting arrogance. It violates the value of obeying rules, and respecting authority. Bullying lacks compassion, for it shows no concern for the victim. Bullying is absent of courage, for it is engaged in by cowards who choose victims who cannot put up a fair fight. Bullying is so terrible that no group of decent human beings should tolerate it. It certainly shouldn’t be tolerated by schools. Any sign of bullying should be stopped immediately. Stopping bullying can be done more effectively by students than by teachers and administrators.  
  • Students can stop bullying by standing up to the bully. When a person bullies anyone in your presence he is bullying everyone in that presence and daring anyone to come to the aid of the victim. The Bully is saying to the entire group, “I can do whatever I wish to this person and I dare any of you to try to stop me. If you don’t try to stop me you must agree with me or be afraid of me.” Your refusal to come to the aid of the victim is the Bully’s permission to continue his bullying. If he gets away with his behavior he concludes that he is stronger than the rest of the community. Students can stop bullying by forming a circle around anyone being bullied. The circle can be physical and/or emotional. The circle says to the one being bullied, “we have formed a circle of protection around you.” It says to the bully, “If you want to get to this person you’ll have to come through the rest of us.” Once the bully sees that the victim has the support of the community, the bullying will stop. The mere fact that the Bully targets the weak is evidence that he wouldn’t stand up to one strong person, let alone a whole group of them.  There are many reasons young people bully, but the overriding reason is that they can get away with it. When bullying is unacceptable to the students at your school, and would be Bullies know it, there will be no more bullying. Ultimately, if those who are tempted to bully embraced the values in this book, they would respect other people’s dignity and their rights, have compassion for their condition, and connect with them as fellow citizens involved in the noble ventures of building a better world for all. After all, true respect comes from within.

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  • Bullying is harassing, teasing, taunting, bluffing, threatening, and exhibiting any speech or behavior toward another person who is threatened by that speech or behavior, especially if you have a physical, authoritative, or emotional advantage over that person.

  • Bullying is absent of courage, for it is engaged in by cowards who choose victims who cannot put up a fair fight.


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                                                 Bullying


                        Thoughts on Bullying, and how to stop it


  • Bullying is a big problem among America's youths; both males and females. 
  • Bullying is wrong and illegal. It is a violation of the laws of decency and a tremendous disrespect of human dignity and personality. It violates the rights of individual protected by the constitution. 
  • Schools should have a clear definition of bullying and very strict guidelines about it and swift and sure consequences to deal with it. The definition used in this website's addressing of bullying is, Bullying is harassing, taunting, bluffing, threatening, and exhibiting any speech or behavior toward another person who is threatened by that behavior, especially if you have a physical, authoritative or emotional advantage over him/her. It is bothering somebody who is not your equal. Bullying can be done as an individual or as a group.
  • We can stop bullying by making the penalties for it so severe that almost no reasonable person would risk doing it and facing those consequences, or we can educate and sensitize our society to a degree of civility that they would be ashamed to participate in such barbaric and hurtful behavior to another human being. Every institution that works with young people should have both of these methods in place simultaneously. 

  •                                     What to do when bullying occurs

  • When bullying occurs everybody should stand up for the victim of bullying. When a person bullies anyone in your presence he is bullying everyone in that presence, and daring anyone to come to the aid of the victim. He is saying, "I can do whatever I want to this person and no one cans stop me, and furthermore, "you onlookers must agree with me or be afraid of me.
  • A group can stop bullying by forming a circle around the bullied. Students who see another child being bullied can form a circle around the child. The circle says to the child being bullied, " We have formed a circle of friendship and protection around you.  It says to the bully, “If you want to get to this person you will have to come through the rest of us to do so.”
  • Bullying can only take place in a community of cowards; in order for bullying to thrive the community must look the other way. 
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  •                                          preventing bullying
  • Young people who eventually bully others are usually led to that point step by step, or idea by idea. Listed below are some of these ideas. Whenever adults hear a child expressing these ideas, they should start intervening; if not, bullying could very well follow.
  • 1. I have a right to set the rules of this place. I am bigger. I have more money. My sexual preference is more desirable. I am smarter. I am a better athlete. I dress better. I look better. I am more liked than you are.
  • 2. Most people think as I do about me, and agree with me in my thoughts about others.
  • 3. No one else has anything to do with what I do to someone else, as long as I'm not bothering them.
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  •                                           Adults should always be in charge.

  • It is the responsibility of adults to set the tone and culture of the space of which they are in charge. Adults should be in charge, and wherever there are children, there should be an adult in charge of them,  making and enforcing the rules. The rules on bullying should be clear, strict, fair, and enforceable. There should never be any doubt as to who is in charge in a space and whose rules reign. Whenever there is doubt, that is the crack through which bullying and other unacceptable behaviors can creep. Bullying is almost always a failure of adult supervision, or adult teachings.


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